{"id":382,"date":"2009-11-27T14:44:22","date_gmt":"2009-11-27T19:44:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/emu.edu\/blog\/restorative-justice\/?p=382"},"modified":"2010-05-27T07:52:45","modified_gmt":"2010-05-27T12:52:45","slug":"10-ways-to-live-restoratively","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/emu.edu\/now\/restorative-justice\/2009\/11\/27\/10-ways-to-live-restoratively\/","title":{"rendered":"10 ways to live restoratively"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>1. \u00a0 \u00a0Take relationships seriously, envisioning yourself in an interconnected web of people, institutions and the environment.<\/p>\n<p>2. \u00a0 \u00a0Try to be aware of the impact &#8211; potential as well as actual &#8211; of your actions on others and the environment.<\/p>\n<p>3. \u00a0 \u00a0When your actions negatively impact others, take responsibility by acknowledging and seeking to repair the harm &#8211; even when you could probably get away with avoiding or denying it. \u00a0(To craft a letter of apology, see the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.apologyletter.org\/index.html\">Apology Letter<\/a> website developed by Loreen Walker and Ben Furman.)<\/p>\n<p>4. \u00a0 \u00a0Treat everyone respectfully, even those you don&#8217;t expect to encounter again, even those you feel don&#8217;t deserve it, even those who have harmed or offended you or others.<\/p>\n<p>5. \u00a0 \u00a0Involve those affected by a decision, as much as possible, in the decision-making process.<\/p>\n<p>6. \u00a0 \u00a0View the conflicts and harms in your life as opportunities.<\/p>\n<p>7. \u00a0 \u00a0Listen, deeply and compassionately, to others, seeking to understand even if you don&#8217;t agree with them. (Think about who you want to be in the latter situation rather than just being right.)<\/p>\n<p>8. \u00a0 \u00a0Engage in dialogue with others, even when what is being said is difficult, remaining open to learning from them and the encounter.<\/p>\n<p>9. \u00a0 \u00a0Be cautious about imposing your &#8220;truths&#8221; and views on other people and situations.<\/p>\n<p>10. \u00a0Sensitively confront everyday injustices including sexism, racism and classism.<\/p>\n<p>I would welcome additional suggestions as well as comments on these ten.<\/p>\n<p>The chart below explores some implications of five key restorative justice principles for criminal justice and for restorative living.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Restorative Justice Principles<\/strong> adapted by Catherine Bargen (2008) from Susan Sharpe, <em><a href=\"http:\/\/mrjc.ca\/documents-publications\/a-vision-for-healing-and-change\/\">Restorative Justice: A Vision for Healing and Change<\/a>. Thanks to Catherine for her suggestions on the above as well.<\/em><\/p>\n<table class=\"MsoNormalTable\" border=\"1\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"113\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"center\"><strong><span>Principle of   Restorative Justice<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"171\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"center\"><strong><span>Application   for Criminal Justice<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"158\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"center\"><strong><span>Application   for Restorative Living<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"113\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><span>Invite full participation   and consensus.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"171\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span>Victims,   offenders and the community have a voice in responding to criminal harm, with   as much agreement as possible in what the outcome should look like.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"158\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span>All   those who feel they have a stake in a situation of harm or conflict can be   invited to participate in dialogue around the issues and have a voice in the   outcomes or decisions made.<span> <\/span>Power imbalances are noted and addressed as much as possible to   achieve consensus.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span> <\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"113\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><span>Heal what has been broken.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"171\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span>When   a crime is committed, the need for healing inevitably arises.<span> <\/span>This may take the form of emotional   healing (for victims, and for offenders), relationship healing, and\/or   reparation of property damage.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"158\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span>Our   everyday interactions and situations can result in hurtful words and actions,   which may create feelings of injustice or imbalance in our   relationships.<span> <\/span>As much as   possible, the restorative approach seeks to bring those hurts to light and   create space for healing and reparation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span> <\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"113\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><span>Seek full and direct   accountability.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"171\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span>Offenders   need to take responsibility for their own actions and choices.<span> <\/span>They are given the opportunity to   explain their behaviour and fulfill the obligations created from their   behaviour directly to the people they have harmed.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"158\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span>When   harm occurs, we can nurture an environment where we are encouraged to take   ownership for our own role in hurtful behaviour or abuses of power.<span> <\/span>Living restoratively means respectfully   expecting oneself and others to be accountable for our actions in ways that   are fair and reasonable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span> <\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"113\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><span>Reunite what has been   divided.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"171\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span>Victims   of crime often experience a sense of isolation from the community, as do   offenders.<span> <\/span>While the reasons for   this isolation may differ between these two groups, processes that allow for   reintegration need to be sought in the wake of a crime for all that have been   affected.<span> <\/span>Such processes can   create a renewed sense of wholeness and closure, as well as a sense of reintegration   into the community.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span> <\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"158\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span>Hurtful   or damaging behaviour in our places of interaction can create feelings of   isolation and of being an outcast.<span> <\/span>It can result in individuals taking sides and developing an \u201cus\u201d\/   \u201dthem\u201d mentality.<span> <\/span>As much as   possible, restorative living aims to take stock of where divisions have   occurred in our communities and work toward balance, understanding and   reconciliation.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"113\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><span>Strengthen the community   to prevent future harms.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"171\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span>A   justice process that is restorative will focus not only on the details of the   crime at hand, but what the systemic causes of crime are in the community and   how they can be addressed.<span> <\/span>In   this way, a healthier and safer community is created for all, not just those   wanting to be protected from crime.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td width=\"158\" valign=\"top\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span>Most   communities can ultimately use situations of harm to learn, grow and change   where necessary.<span> <\/span>When living   restoratively, we can help illuminate systemic injustice and power   imbalances.<span> <\/span>We then advocate for   positive changes in order to make the community a healthier and more just   place for all.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<p><!--EndFragment--><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>1. \u00a0 \u00a0Take relationships seriously, envisioning yourself in an interconnected web of people, institutions and the environment. 2. \u00a0 \u00a0Try to be aware of the impact &#8211; potential as well as actual &#8211; of your actions on others and the environment. 3. \u00a0 \u00a0When your actions negatively 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