{"id":4444,"date":"2011-10-21T14:12:35","date_gmt":"2011-10-21T18:12:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/emu.edu\/now\/peacebuilder\/?p=4444"},"modified":"2011-10-21T14:12:35","modified_gmt":"2011-10-21T18:12:35","slug":"reconciliation-re-weaving-a-social-fabric-that-heals","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/emu.edu\/now\/peacebuilder\/2011\/10\/reconciliation-re-weaving-a-social-fabric-that-heals\/","title":{"rendered":"Reconciliation: Re-Weaving a Social Fabric that Heals"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Carl Stauffer, PhD<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

In the marketplace of ideas, the concepts and language of reconciliation have become quite popularized and at the same time diluted. Coming out of the turmoil of the South African political transition of the 1990s, it became abundantly clear to me that the term reconciliation was easily hijacked to serve the particular interests of any number of sociopolitical groupings.<\/p>\n

For some, reconciliation was used to describe the political process of power-sharing. For others it referred to new political and legal democratic reforms that allowed former enemies to live together without killing each other. Still others would have used the term to describe a \u201cgood working relationship\u201d with persons of another culture or race. While all of these notions have linkages to genuine reconciliation, they are only parts of the whole.<\/p>\n

Authentic reconciliation requires us to move beyond mere social tolerance or political coexistence. It is concerned with repairing harmony in the life of a community or nation. By harmony, I mean the restoring of meaningful relationships\u2014relationships of dignity, trust and collaboration. Harmony also infers a collective concern for the common good and a shared future view that gives hope and motivation to the idea of unity.1<\/sup><\/p>\n

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Tools for Agents of Reconciliation<\/h3>\n

There are volumes of published literature on what reconciliation is and how it is accomplished. (See figure above.)\u00a0Drawing from this brief overview, there are at least six critical elements that need to be considered by those who wish to be agents of reconciliation at either an individual or collective level. With each element there are corresponding skill-sets that can be developed.<\/p>\n

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  1. Psycho-social Support and Trauma Healing:<\/strong> Violence causes disempowerment and disconnectedness; reconciliation aims at the exact opposite\u2014empowerment and connection.2<\/sup>
    \nSkills<\/em>: Trauma awareness, education, debriefi ng and counseling skills<\/li>\n
  2. Personal and Public Grieving or \u201cLament\u201d:<\/strong> The wronged and wrong-doer need a safe space to tell their story and a public space where society \u201cbears witness\u201d to the harm that has been caused.3<\/sup>
    \nSkills<\/em>: Trauma awareness, education, debriefi ng and counseling skills<\/li>\n
  3. Awakening Emphatic Responses:<\/strong> The human brain is biologically \u201chard-wired\u201d to make human connections and to build community through social networks.4<\/sup>
    \nSkills<\/em>: Active listening, paraphrasing, summarizing, nonviolent communication and basic counseling skills<\/li>\n
  4. Facilitating Forgiveness Transactions:<\/strong> \u201cAn act of forgiveness must be understood as a complex process of unlocking painful bondage of mutual liberation. While the perpetrators must be set free from their guilt\u2014and its devastating consequences\u2014the victims must be liberated from their hurt\u2014and its destructive implications.\u201d5<\/sup>
    \nSkills<\/em>: Active listening, paraphrasing, summarizing, nonviolent communication and basic counseling skills<\/li>\n
  5. Re-writing Historical Narratives:<\/strong> Learning how to \u201cremember rightly in a violent world\u201d6<\/sup> entails dealing with the nationalpatriotic narratives, the historical memories, the lived experience and the current events.7<\/sup>
    \nSkills<\/em>: Group facilitation, negotiation, mediation, appreciative inquiry, sustained dialogue skills<\/li>\n
  6. Engaging in Reparative\/ Restorative Justice:<\/strong> Asks what harms have been committed, what needs have been generated, and who is obligated to make things right.8<\/sup>
    \nSkills<\/em>: Victim-Offender mediation, Family Group conferencing, circle processes<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    In sum, the end-goal of reconciliation is like a horizon on the landscape; it provides us with the vision, inspiration and moral guidance on what harmonized relations could look and feel like. On the other hand, the skill-sets attached to conflict management, resolution and\/or peacebuilding provide us with the necessary instruments or tools \u2014 the means \u2014 to arrive at reconciliation.<\/p>\n

    EndNotes<\/h4>\n
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    1. Catholic Social Thought provides a foundational guiding light in terms of defi ning the values, actions and ethics that should drive this kind of thinking and living.<\/li>\n
    2. Herman, J. Trauma and Recovery \u2013 The aftermath of violence from domestic abuse to political terror<\/em>.<\/li>\n
    3. Katongole, E., & Wilson-Hartgrove, J. Mirror to the Church: Resurrecting Faith after Genocide in Rwanda<\/em>.<\/li>\n
    4. Early, C. & M. \u201cNeuroscience of Emotion\u201d<\/li>\n
    5. Muller-Fahrenholz, G. The Art of Forgiveness<\/em>.<\/li>\n
    6. Volf, M. The End of Memory \u2013 Remembering Rightly in a Violent World<\/em>.<\/li>\n
    7. Lederach, J.P. The Moral Imagination \u2013 The Art and Soul of Building Peace<\/em>.<\/li>\n
    8. Zehr, H. Changing Lenses<\/em>.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      [Carl Stauffer<\/a>, PhD, MA ’02<\/a>, is Assistant Professor of Development & Justice Studies at Eastern Mennonite University’s Center for Justice and Peacebuilding. This piece originally appeared in the Fall 2011 issue of A Matter of Spirit<\/em>, a publication of the Intercommunity Peace & Justice Center<\/a>, and is re-printed with permission.]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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