Telling stories even when they are difficult helps to expand the context and allows complexity to be integrated into the experience that is being narrated. This in itself opens up possibilities that may not arise if we fixated on only “facts” and trick ourselves into thinking that we are being “objective” and “right”. For me RJ and especially circles make it possible to lay a soft ground upon which we can walk and talk our stories so we can continue to draw closer to each other rather than move into greater isolation and grief. I plan to get Bruce’s book.